Cycle of Violence: Understanding the Four Phases

Violence, in all its forms, is an unfortunate reality in today’s society. Statistics show a concerning trend. Breaking the cycle of violence is a collective responsibility that begins with recognition and understanding of its phases.

The Honeymoon Phase

This phase can give a false sense of calm and renewed love. The abusive person may be exceptionally caring, offer gifts, and promise to change. According to Statistics Canada, although this phase is marked by apparent positivity, it can actually be a manipulative strategy to keep the victim in the relationship. A 2021 study reveals that this “calm before the storm” often hides the true unresolved problems in the relationship.

Tension Building

Tension begins to rise due to deteriorating communication and mounting frustrations. The victim may feel that, despite their efforts, it is difficult to avoid conflicts. In Ontario, a 2020 study by the Family Violence Prevention Center shows that this phase is often marked by a 15% increase in calls to crisis helplines compared to the previous phase.

Explosion (Violence)

This is the phase where violence clearly manifests, whether it be physical, verbal, or psychological. According to the Ontario Provincial Police’s annual report of 2022, approximately 22% of reported incidents correspond to this phase, an alarming proportion that underlines the severity of the situation.

Reconciliation

In this phase, the abusive person may apologize, minimize the violence, or deny its severity. They may promise to never repeat their actions or to seek help. However, without professional intervention, the cycle tends to repeat itself. The Justice Ontario report of 2023 stresses the importance of seeking professional help during this phase to break the cycle.

Recognizing the phases of the cycle of violence is crucial for prevention and intervention. If you or someone you know is caught in such a cycle, it’s important to get help. Resources like the Ontario Victim Services helpline are available 24/7 to offer support and guidance.

Given these figures and observations, it is imperative to act. 

 

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